Learning to become aware of, and to manage, the narrative inside your head is essential to having a satisfying career and a happy life.

Running your life on “auto-pilot” is not only exhausting, but incredibly frustrating as the same issues keep arising with no solution. This narrative forces you into a physiological state of dysregulation, from which you attempt to meet the constant demands on you to handle complex problems and make quick decisions. You are putting your physical and emotional health on the line in the desperate attempt of your primitive brain to “stay safe” by maintaining the status quo.

Managing your own physiology is the first order of business, for without it you cannot possibly change a thing. This is a deceptively simple process that is only effective with practice, and that also becomes highly efficient with practice. Learning to do this for yourself allows you to approach the inevitable conflict you encounter on a daily basis.

The second order of business is getting underneath how you talk to yourself. You can be incredibly mean - your own worst critic - and are left feeling depleted and defeated. You can be in denial, believing that your issues at work are “all them,” and failing to see how you are always part of problem (and the solution!). You can take everything personally, whether that was intended or not. You can stand up for others easily, but finding your own voice and using it to advocate on your own behalf is a different case entirely.

It doesn’t matter how high you are on the corporate ladder - everyone is susceptible to old narratives that no longer serve them. These are old beliefs that drive your behavior, that have never been brought to light for examination, to determine whether they still serve you. When unexamined, and used repetitively over years, they become unconscious habits. 

You limit yourself with beliefs you have outgrown. 

This does not require a “deep dive” into your past; we start with today and move forward, only referencing specific past patterns as useful information (and if you could benefit from a look farther back to growing up years, we can pause our work until that gets sorted). However, we will explore your conflict style, in depth, to customize approaches that will work for your unique personality.

It can often take another person to help you identify what some of these old stories, patterns & habits might be that hold you back, making it hard to trust yourself and your intuition.

Sometimes you just need someone to work with you to update the narrative that supports achieving all you want to in your career and in your life.